Mindful Tips for Educators with Students Involved in Child Custody Disputes
By Jake Hornstein & Greg Hill
Educators with students whose parents are going through a custody dispute may wonder… What is my role, or appropriate level of involvement? How can I protect myself from legal entanglements? We’ve identified a few areas that are important to be mindful of.
Have a clear understanding of your school’s policies regarding the handling of custody disputes. This provides a better chance of avoiding missteps. Especially missteps that could jeopardize employment.
It's possible that one parent may ask for your support in the legal fight. Your district may have policies outlining what you can/cannot say or do. Outside of circumstances where there’s suspected abuse or neglect, it’s best to avoid taking a side.
Be aware of “recruitment”. It may be difficult to tell a parent, “I’d rather not take sides”, “Don’t badmouth your ex to me”, “Don’t have your child give me messages about the other parent” or “Don’t tell me what to tell your ex”. A parent may try to influence a teacher to become their ally, to later be used in court. Unfortunately, this happens, and it’s important to be mindful that these attempts can occur.
Occasionally, teachers are subpoenaed into custody hearings. This can be very uncomfortable. Sticking strictly to the facts of your observations is vital.
Having a clear understanding of school policies and procedures, and simply being aware of “recruitment” attempts by a parent, to later be used in court, are the best ways to protect yourself from unwanted missteps and legal entanglements.
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